Heal From A Broken Heart - Relationships

A broken heart can be one of the most painful things to heal from and can take a very long time to heal. During these times it can feel like the whole world could light up in flames and it still couldn't compare to the pain inside.

Of course, admitting a broken heart can be a difficult thing to do and most of us try to continue on with life masking the pain in our heart. With this pain comes many emotions.

Some good and some bad. Mostly bad. If these emotions are not released in a healthy fashion, even the good emotions can lead to detrimental acts. This is because the desire to rid yourself of all the pain sometimes fools you into acting the opposite of how you really feel. It can blind your judgement and hurt your boundaries.

It is said that healing a broken heart takes "time". This is true and not really what someone wants to hear when the pain seems unbearable. It is easy to think you should be over something by now and if the other person has already moved on, it's easy to put on a mask and act as though you are "fine". It is easy to look at yourself and wonder what's wrong with you? Am I not lovable? Am I not good enough? Am I not worthy? Did I not try hard enough? Was I not attractive enough? Am I a bad person? And the list goes on and on and on. None of this is true, but breaking from harmful thoughts can be difficult.

One of the first steps in healing a broken heart is to let the emotions come. Don't try to pretend your heart doesn't hurt. Don't try to pretend you are over it. Don't shove those feelings deep in your soul to die a lonely death. Allow yourself to "FEEL" your pain. Allow yourself to be sad, angry, hurt, mad, and sad again. The key is to do this in a safe environment and to not act. You don't need to tell the whole world about your pain, keep it private and if someone asks about it, say you don't want to talk about it. Do however, give yourself a safe place to feel your pain. A place where you can cry, be angry, express your feelings and release the pain. Go into the pain-body with love. You may feel justified in your anger or sadness and feel you need to DO something to feel better or retaliate, but this is always a bad idea.

Instead, spend some time alone, cry, write out your feelings in a journal, hit a pillow, watch a sad movie, listen to sad songs, ask a friend if they can listen and just let you vent with no judgments, but whatever you do, don't act out of hurt and anger. This specifically means do not initiate action. If you are required to communicate with the person or the family and friends of the person that broke your heart, do so carefully and only as needed. Do not initiate contact, or find a reason to see that person, do not send emails or texts or call that person. Limiting contact is the best approach if you are truly trying to mend the heart and move on.

If you are trying to work on the relationship, this is a different story and way more complicated, I will not go into this now, but the key is setting good boundaries that demand love, respect and trust. If these factors do not exist in a relationship, it is time to evaluate why you feel you want to work on a relationship that is obviously not healthy.

Any actions that you take in healing a broken heart need to be actions out of love. Don't fool yourself into thinking you are acting out of love either. This is a dangerous trick that the heart sometimes tries to play. It justifies actions that are not in your best interest by making you believe you are doing them out of love and such actions will help. Unless you are protecting YOURSELF or setting boundaries for YOURSELF, do not reach out to the person that broke your heart, do not reach out to their friends and family and do not try to retaliate or avenge another person.

When you take action out of hurt and pain, it usually comes back to you to double your pain. Don't do this to yourself. Instead focus on the positive things in your life and focus on loving yourself. There is always something to be grateful for. A home, family, friends, etc. Try spending times with supportive friends and family. Spend time with your dog or animals. Or try to find reasons to laugh. Laughter is good for the soul and a powerful tool in healing. Watch a funny movie or start a funny DVD series. Get a good book that makes you laugh. Listen to a comedy show. You may also want to try creative healing and tap into this powerful healing energy. Taking your mind off of the hurt helps to redirect the energy into something more positive which helps to heal the heart.

Loving yourself is sometimes the hardest part of healing. It's easy to feel responsible for your broken heart or feel that you are to blame or are flawed in some way. The first part of loving yourself is forgiving yourself. Everyone has a part in a broken heart and forgiving yourself is the first step in loving yourself. The heart alone is capable of loving at extreme levels. Behind the personality, hurt, sadness, imperfections and ego, is a pure and beautiful heart. Your heart is capable of healing only with love. Try to forgive yourself. Try to understand the lessons of the heart and listen to what it is saying. For a broken heart is one of the hardest and best lessons in learning, growing and expanding. Recognize this as a an opportunity to learn about yourself, to improve and to change for the better.

Be patient with your heart. Love yourself. Do things of kindness for yourself. Workout, eat well, laugh, and treat yourself as a friend. Use this as a time to be your own best friend.  If your best friend was hurting, you would most likely want to be there to support them. Do this for yourself. Treat yourself. Buy yourself flowers, take a bath, use essential oils, read your favorite book, buy some new shoes, or cook yourself a wonderful meal. Be nice to yourself.

The pain may not go away over night and it will probably take longer than you would like to feel normal again. You may have up's and down's and feel good then bad. And that is okay. Allow yourself the time it takes to mend your heart and be patient with yourself. Having patience with yourself even when others may not is the key. Be patient with your heart for all hearts are different. Be patient with what your heart needs, whether it be time, love, friends, support, etc but in time, the heart does heal. Trust and have faith in the process. Appreciate the lessons you learn and respect yourself. The heart is not your enemy but your friend. Learn to be friends with your heart and let it be your guide.

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    1. I love this article. I can only wish that I had come across it when my daughter had to cope with her first "broken heart". It would have helped her to hear these exact words from someone other than me. I expressed these same ideals, but coming from me;she could not receive them. "It takes a village to raise a child".

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      2. I would seriously consider the energetic manipulation that had to have taken place for this spell to work. Please consider "karmic energy". I have power in the energy world....we all do, however, I absolutely know not to manipulate other humans to act as I want them to act. I understand your pain and where your motives where, but I promise you, you cant chase away someone who's meant to be in your life. Season, reason....lifetime.
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